Mommy Moment: I Don’t Mind

So I need a little mommy moment today.

We are on the countdown at our house.  This is not a countdown I am looking forward to.

It is the countdown until we are empty nesters.  I’m not going to tell you how many days it is because it just makes me sad and anxious.  But it’s not enough!

Tessa will be headed to Utah at the end of June with Cali to enjoy the laid back atmosphere of college life in the summer, take a few classes, live in an apartment with her sister and have a good time.

As excited as I am for them, I am sad for me because I don’t get to go with.

This new phase of life I am facing is making me a tad bit anxious and very sentimental.  I am trying to enjoy every minute of the time I have left.

In fact, I am enjoying it so much there are a lot of things I don’t mind anymore.

I don’t mind that my kitchen looks like this most of the time.


I don’t mind that my grocery bill has more than doubled as we explore this new world of wheat free, sugar free, dairy free and yeast free eating as we try to help Cali get healthier.  My cupboards are now full of spelt, rye and brown rice flour, potato starch, tapioca flour and xanthan gum (what the heck is that!?)

I don’t mind that there seems to be endless piles of shoes. (O.K. – two of those pair are mine!)


I don’t mind that my dining room has been turned into a messy study hall for those AP exams Tessa is taking this week.


I don’t mind that my craft room has been taken over by the girl’s projects.


I don’t mind that there are a lot of unmade beds in my house.


And clothes on the floor.  I don’t mind.


I don’t mind because in a few short weeks my kitchen will stay clean a lot more and my grocery bill will be a lot less, there won’t be any one’s shoes to pick up but mine and Jim’s.  The dining room will stay clean and the beds will be made (well, at least most of the time).  And there will be way too much quiet at my house.  And I do mind that!

This afternoon I dropped something off at the home of a young mother.  Her house had kids running in and out and the floors were cluttered with shoes, backpacks, clothes, baseball gear etc.  She apologized for the mess as we stepped over it to get to the door but I didn’t mind and I hope she learns not to mind either.  It means someone lives there and that’s a very good thing!

So I’m just going to enjoy every minute of the noise, the mess and the craziness while I can!

Leigh Anne
Hi – I’m Leigh Anne! I have been a homebased mom for 30 years since my first baby boy was born! I love working with women and helping to inspire them to achieve their goals and dreams while still maintaining motherhood and family as their number one priority. I blog about everything I enjoy – creating treats and meals in my kitchen, spending time in my garden, entertaining and party planning, reading, self improvement and tips and ideas on style and fashion.
Leigh Anne
Leigh Anne

Latest posts by Leigh Anne (see all)


  1. says

    Oh my. What a beautiful post. You got me to cry. I’m in the middle of that too. My youngest starts college this fall. However she is staying here for one year at community college. so I have on year left. Hang in there girl. Girls never leave their mothers.

  2. says

    Oh – I loved this post. I still have a few years to go and it was a wonderful reminder to enjoy my children while I can.
    Although your house looks pristine compared to mine!
    best wishes, Julie.

  3. Clark says

    You sure seemed to mind the unmade beds and shoes by the door when I lived at home mom! haha love you.

  4. Jamie says

    This post is so touching. I am a mother of a two year old and I have a baby boy on the way. Just the other day I was telling my husband that instead of complaining that the house is never clean, I am going to embrace it. After all, when the kids are gone the house will stay clean and all I am going to do is miss them being home. Thank you for the reminder.

  5. Marci Olson says

    Thanks, I needed to hear that! I’m a mother of three VERY busy kids (7, 5 and 2). I struggle to keep some sense of order. Sometimes it works, usually not so much. Thank you for reminding me that this is a time to be cherished and sometimes be a little messy. lol!

  6. says

    Yes, thank you for the post. It was a good reminder that I need to not mind…which is something I do mind all the time! I thought of Pres. Monson’s talk about finger prints on the wall, etc. when I read your post. I’m looking forward to hearing about your next stage of life!

  7. Cathy B says

    Oh my goodness! What perfect timing for your article. I have been after my kids for weeks now and feeling sorry for myself because my house is such a mess and I’m trying to do it all while two of our boys are currently living at home while they work and attend PSU. I want to thank you so much, Leigh Anne, for putting things into perspective for me. Starting today, I will post your article where I can be reminded every day of how little time I really have before all the boys will be out on there own.

  8. Erin says

    Beautiful post Leigh Anne! My kids are 9, 6 and 3 and I am slowly but surely waking up to the mentality of “not minding”. (Mainly because it just seems impossible!) About a month ago we spent our Saturday with soccer games and a nice hike, and Sunday enjoyed a nice relaxing day together at home. I was fighting the “there is laundry to do and floors to sweep and piles to clear” urges. And we had a lovely weekend that provided much needed respite. You are a wonderful mom and have made your home and family such great place to be. You’ve done well! Wishing you peace of heart and mind as you send your youngest off to spread her wings!

  9. Jessica says

    I know you posted this a while back, but I appreciate it so much! As a mother with 4 small children, it is hard to remember that THEY are the most important things happening in our home. So much more important than constantly trying to pick up and clean after them. For today, I won’t mind! Thank you so much!

  10. Katie says

    I love this post – I try to remember this every day when I am looking after my 2 beautiful girls under 3 yrs old. I will never get this time back again. There will always be time to clean up the kitchen later. :)

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

You may use these HTML tags and attributes: <a href="" title=""> <abbr title=""> <acronym title=""> <b> <blockquote cite=""> <cite> <code> <del datetime=""> <em> <i> <q cite=""> <s> <strike> <strong>