Comments on: College Bound…. http://www.yourhomebasedmom.com/college-bound/ Leigh Anne Wilkes Wed, 08 Feb 2012 21:51:30 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Stephany http://www.yourhomebasedmom.com/college-bound/comment-page-1/#comment-994 Stephany Fri, 22 Aug 2008 17:07:14 +0000 http://www.yourhomebasedmom.com/college-bound/#comment-994 I can tell you, from the daughter's perspective, the days before I left for my freshman year of college were hard for my mom and me. I was the last child to go off to college and mom's only girl was finally leaving home. And I was only going 4 hours away - 1 state away! That drive to school was the hardest in the car because neither of us wanted to admit how much we'd miss seeing one another every day. We are incredibly close and share a very special bond - quiet different from what she has with my brothers. I think it's different when a daughter leaves home - I think mom's protect them and have such a special place for them in their hearts even if they have sons too - it's just different. I can give you one word of advice - well two actually - 1. When you go to part ways once she's moved in just hold her really tight and tell her how proud of her you are. I still remember that hug to this day from my mom. 2. Explain to her that when she calls you when she's upset at school or sad, that she also needs to call you later that day when she's happy again. I went down to dinner one night my junior year so sad and upset and sat with one of our faculty fellows at supper. By the time dinner was over I was laughing, smiling and had plans to go out with friends that night - she grabbed my arm and said - please call your mom before you go out - as a mother, when your daughter calls you upset, you stay upset for hours thinking about her wishing you could do something - even though you may have moved on hours ago - so just let her know you're doing OK now. Best advice I ever got in my life. Tell her to do the same for you - it will make your bond stronger and you'll always know when things are right again with the world! Keep strong, what a great support group you'll have for the drive back! I can tell you, from the daughter’s perspective, the days before I left for my freshman year of college were hard for my mom and me. I was the last child to go off to college and mom’s only girl was finally leaving home. And I was only going 4 hours away – 1 state away!

That drive to school was the hardest in the car because neither of us wanted to admit how much we’d miss seeing one another every day. We are incredibly close and share a very special bond – quiet different from what she has with my brothers.

I think it’s different when a daughter leaves home – I think mom’s protect them and have such a special place for them in their hearts even if they have sons too – it’s just different.

I can give you one word of advice – well two actually –
1. When you go to part ways once she’s moved in just hold her really tight and tell her how proud of her you are. I still remember that hug to this day from my mom.

2. Explain to her that when she calls you when she’s upset at school or sad, that she also needs to call you later that day when she’s happy again. I went down to dinner one night my junior year so sad and upset and sat with one of our faculty fellows at supper. By the time dinner was over I was laughing, smiling and had plans to go out with friends that night – she grabbed my arm and said – please call your mom before you go out – as a mother, when your daughter calls you upset, you stay upset for hours thinking about her wishing you could do something – even though you may have moved on hours ago – so just let her know you’re doing OK now. Best advice I ever got in my life. Tell her to do the same for you – it will make your bond stronger and you’ll always know when things are right again with the world!

Keep strong, what a great support group you’ll have for the drive back!

]]> By: Leigh Anne http://www.yourhomebasedmom.com/college-bound/comment-page-1/#comment-988 Leigh Anne Thu, 21 Aug 2008 05:20:34 +0000 http://www.yourhomebasedmom.com/college-bound/#comment-988 <p>Emily Wilkes »</p> Can't wait for that trip to Tai Pan!! I'm saving lots of room in the car on the way home for all the goodies I'm going to buy! Emily Wilkes »

Can’t wait for that trip to Tai Pan!! I’m saving lots of room in the car on the way home for all the goodies I’m going to buy!

]]> By: Emily Wilkes http://www.yourhomebasedmom.com/college-bound/comment-page-1/#comment-987 Emily Wilkes Thu, 21 Aug 2008 04:33:52 +0000 http://www.yourhomebasedmom.com/college-bound/#comment-987 Ok so my situation isn't quite as bad but I agree with you! Jacky will start kindergarten and just the thought of it brings me to tears. Thank you for sharing. I enjoy knowing that I am not the only mom who does NOT look forward to school starting again each year. You will have a friend to cry with here in Orem. I'll cry all the way to Tai Pan with you! Love you!!! Ok so my situation isn’t quite as bad but I agree with you! Jacky will start kindergarten and just the thought of it brings me to tears. Thank you for sharing. I enjoy knowing that I am not the only mom who does NOT look forward to school starting again each year. You will have a friend to cry with here in Orem. I’ll cry all the way to Tai Pan with you! Love you!!!

]]> By: LuAnne http://www.yourhomebasedmom.com/college-bound/comment-page-1/#comment-963 LuAnne Tue, 19 Aug 2008 13:55:17 +0000 http://www.yourhomebasedmom.com/college-bound/#comment-963 I have to tell you that it does get a little easier, but never really goes away. I still have seperation anxiety everytime our only son/child leaves after a visit. I have to say he does not suffer from same problem after a visit. This actually makes me feel very proud that he wants to face the world on his own. I guess that is what you have to remember as they leave the nest; you have given your child the very best guidance, and tools to step out into the world and you must trust that everything will be fine. Now we finally understand what our parents went through with us. I have to tell you that it does get a little easier, but
never really goes away. I still have seperation anxiety everytime our only son/child leaves after a visit. I have to say he does not suffer from same problem after a visit. This actually makes me feel very proud that he wants to face the world on his own.
I guess that is what you have to remember as they leave the nest; you have given your child the very best guidance, and tools to step out into the world and you must trust that everything will be fine. Now we finally understand what our parents went through with us.

]]> By: Jessica A http://www.yourhomebasedmom.com/college-bound/comment-page-1/#comment-959 Jessica A Tue, 19 Aug 2008 04:07:21 +0000 http://www.yourhomebasedmom.com/college-bound/#comment-959 Your post had me in tears! It seems like only yesterday my mom took me off to college. I remember her sitting in the auditorium at the freshman orientation and they had a video showing pictures of children as they grew up to Rod Stewart's "Forever Young." I looked over at my mom and she was totally crying. At the time I was young and naive and didn't understand why she was crying?? I'm a mom now (ages 5 and 9) and I get sad just thinking about the day that they go off to college. I can't really offer any words of advice, but enjoy these next 10 days with your daughter :) Your post had me in tears! It seems like only yesterday my mom took me off to college. I remember her sitting in the auditorium at the freshman orientation and they had a video showing pictures of children as they grew up to Rod Stewart’s “Forever Young.” I looked over at my mom and she was totally crying. At the time I was young and naive and didn’t understand why she was crying?? I’m a mom now (ages 5 and 9) and I get sad just thinking about the day that they go off to college. I can’t really offer any words of advice, but enjoy these next 10 days with your daughter :)

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